June 7 · Why the first turn should only be one minute
Good morning.Staggered timers solve the inherent resentment of waiting for a turn.
Parenting coach Lisa Bunnage has a counterintuitive fix for sharing disputes: flip a coin to see who goes first, but give the winner only half the allotted time. By giving the first turn one minute and the second turn two minutes, parents instantly balance the perceived unfairness of waiting.
Little kids pick
This staggered timer approach to sharing disputes builds immediate equity, offering parents a concrete way to prevent the waiting child from melting down.
Relationships
The Coin-Flip Sharing Method
When two children want the same item, flip a coin to decide who goes first, but give the winner only half the allotted time.
Why it matters: Parents often default to equal timers, which leaves the waiting child frustrated; this staggered approach builds immediate equity.
Big kids pick
Texting a specific prompt before a difficult conversation removes the pressure of face-to-face confrontation, giving teens the space they need to process their thoughts.
Communication
Pre-Meeting Text Prompts
When your relationship feels strained, text your teen a specific question like "What is one thing you would change about our relationship?" before discussing it.
Why it matters: Teens often struggle to articulate frustrations on the spot; asynchronous communication bridges the gap.
Today's Parenting Tips
Actionable advice distilled from this week's parenting podcasts.
Relationships
The Coin-Flip Sharing Method
When two children want the same item, flip a coin to decide who goes first, but give the winner only half the allotted time.
Why it matters: Parents often default to equal timers, which leaves the waiting child frustrated; this staggered approach builds immediate equity.
Communication
Pre-Meeting Text Prompts
When your relationship feels strained, text your teen a specific question like "What is one thing you would change about our relationship?" before discussing it.
Why it matters: Teens often struggle to articulate frustrations on the spot; asynchronous communication bridges the gap.
Relationships
The 10 Percent Attachment Rule
Stop panicking over individual mistakes; research shows less than 10 percent of an adult's attachment style is explained by their childhood parenting.
Why it matters: Modern parenting culture heavily emphasizes parent-child attachment, often causing undue parental anxiety.
Emotional Regulation
De-escalating violent toddler talk
When a toddler threatens violence, skip the lecture and validate their overwhelm by saying, 'You must feel uncomfortable—don't worry, I won't let you hit.'
Why it matters: Toddlers often use shocking language to signal overwhelm, especially during major life transitions like a new sibling.
Relationships
Preempting new sibling resentment
Sit down with your toddler and explicitly give them permission to have negative feelings, noting it's normal to sometimes dislike the new baby.
Why it matters: Major transitions cause dysregulation; proactively normalizing negative feelings prevents kids from feeling ashamed of their natural jealousy.
Communication
The Nothing Whining Response Script
When a toddler whines to get their way, consistently ask them, 'What does whining do?' until they learn to answer, 'Nothing.'
Why it matters: Provides a neutral, repeatable script to shut down whining without escalating parental frustration.
Health & Wellness
Aquaphor for eczema hydration
Choose thick emollients like Aquaphor over white creams to prevent burning on open lesions, as it acts as both a moisture barrier and a hydrator.
Why it matters: Lotions contain more water and can burn open lesions, while pure barriers like Vaseline do not actively moisturize.
Relationships
Visible Parental Boundaries
Show your kids they aren't the center of the universe by occasionally locking them out of adult spaces to prioritize your own friendships.
Why it matters: Child-centric parenting models leave mothers isolated; demonstrating that adults have their own lives is healthy for both parties.
Relationships
Side Of The Pool Parenting
As your children grow, transition to being the side of the pool—accessible when they need to catch their breath, but not jumping in to save them.
Why it matters: Helicopter parenting is burning out parents and stunting kids; this visual framework offers a healthy middle ground.
Communication
Pausing Minor Factual Corrections
Stop correcting minor factual errors—like the exact duration of an activity—when your teen is telling a story, as constant correction quickly shuts down communication.
Why it matters: Teens would rather not share anything than have a discussion full of minor corrections.
Communication
Collaborative Phrasing for PDA
Replace direct orders with collaborative questions like "Shall we?" or "What time do you reckon?" to remove hierarchy and prevent demand avoidance.
Why it matters: As children age into teenagers, direct demands become less effective and trigger more intense pushback.
Communication
The Pen Method for Interruptions
If conversations with your teen frequently devolve into mutual interrupting, use a physical object like a pen to designate the sole speaker until they finish.
Why it matters: Interrupting escalates emotions quickly; a physical prop forces a pause and ensures active listening without the pressure of formulating an immediate rebuttal.
Health & Wellness
Nature Walks for Attention Restoration
When a child is mentally fatigued, take them into nature, which research shows restores attention capacity significantly better than urban environments.
Why it matters: Nature provides inherently fascinating stimuli that require zero effort to process, allowing the brain's attention centers to rest and reset.
Emotional Regulation
Observation-Based Frustration Relief
When a child gets frustrated that they can't master a new skill immediately, have them sit back and watch their peers miss too.
Why it matters: Perfectionism in young athletes is rising; normalizing early failure builds resilience.
Communication
Conflict Resolution Letters
When verbal arguments with your teenager escalate, pass written letters back and forth to help both parties clear their heads and communicate calmly.
Why it matters: Verbal conflict often triggers fight-or-flight responses; writing slows down the interaction and allows for empathy.
Emotional Regulation
Nocturnal Shifts as Demand Avoidance
If a neurodivergent child suddenly becomes nocturnal, recognize this as a sign of burnout where they are seeking a demand-free environment.
Why it matters: Understanding the root cause of sleep changes prevents unnecessary behavioral battles over bedtime.
Emotional Regulation
Circles of Safety Recovery Framework
Support a child recovering from burnout using the 'circles of safety' approach by temporarily allowing them to stick exclusively to safe foods and spaces.
Why it matters: Provides a concrete, phased approach to an overwhelming recovery process.
Health & Wellness
Autistic Burnout vs. Depression Treatment
Avoid standard cognitive behavioral therapy for autistic burnout, as asking a child to adapt to a harmful environment can worsen their symptoms.
Why it matters: Misdiagnosing autistic burnout as depression can lead to harmful interventions that exacerbate the crisis.
Communication
Abstract Reasoning Timeline
Stop trying to reason with children under 13 about why they should do chores; they are entirely experiential and cannot process logical arguments yet.
Why it matters: Understanding this developmental milestone prevents parents from treating emotional resistance as a logic problem.
Relationships
The Two-Minute Sibling Interview
When siblings fight, give each child two uninterrupted minutes to explain their side while you silently take bullet-point notes without showing emotion.
Why it matters: Reacting emotionally to sibling fights often rewards the behavior with attention; a clinical, boring approach neutralizes the payoff.
Health & Wellness
45-Minute Tech Shutdown
To prevent screen stimulation from delaying sleep onset, calculate your desired sleep time and shut down all devices exactly 45 minutes beforehand.
Why it matters: The combination of light and mental stimulation from late-night scrolling actively delays the brain's sleep onset.
Emotional Regulation
Systematic Reduction of OCD Accommodations
Use the SPACE program framework to systematically reduce your accommodation of a child's OCD, such as setting a strict weekly stipend for overused items.
Why it matters: The Yale-developed SPACE program provides an evidence-based way for parents to change their own behavior when a child refuses therapy.
By Stage
What each age group needs this week — patterns across multiple shows.
Toddlers
Scripting Through Overwhelm
Experts are shifting away from punishing toddler outbursts, instead recommending structured scripts that validate extreme emotions. Whether a child threatens violence out of frustration, expresses hatred toward a new sibling, or whines incessantly, providing a neutral, predictable verbal response helps their nervous system recognize safety without escalating the conflict.
Teenagers
Introducing Conversational Speed Bumps
When arguments with adolescents escalate into shouting matches, clinicians suggest introducing physical constraints to break the cycle. Passing a pen to designate the active speaker, exchanging written letters to force a pause, or intentionally ignoring minor factual errors all serve to slow down the interaction and prevent fight-or-flight reactions.
Neurodivergent Children
Prioritizing Environmental Safety Over Adaptation
Standard therapeutic models often fail neurodivergent youth by demanding they adapt to overwhelming environments. Specialists now advocate for radical demand reduction during burnout phases—such as allowing nocturnal sleep schedules or shrinking their world to only safe foods—trusting that capacity will naturally expand once their nervous system fully stabilizes.
Expert Corner
When the psychologists and pediatricians weigh in with specifics.
Choose Aquaphor over white creams for eczema.
Lotions contain high water content that can sting open lesions. Thicker emollients like Aquaphor act as both a moisture barrier and an active hydrator without causing discomfort.
Nature walks actively repair mental fatigue.
Clinical studies demonstrate that natural environments provide inherently fascinating stimuli requiring zero effort to process. This allows depleted cognitive attention centers to rest and reset significantly better than urban settings.
Stop reasoning with children under 13.
Young kids are entirely experiential and lack the brain development necessary for abstract reasoning. Explaining the logical necessity of chores wastes energy on a cognitive milestone they haven't reached yet.
Real Talk
Honest moments from the mic — the stuff that made us nod along.
Visible Parental Boundaries
Child-centric models leave caretakers isolated and exhausted. Demonstrating that adults have their own lives—even by occasionally locking kids out of the kitchen to prioritize adult friendships—teaches healthy self-reliance.
Observation-Based Frustration Relief
When a young athlete gets upset about missing a baseball, having them sit back and watch their peers fail normalizes the struggle. Kids often assume they are the only ones falling short.
From the Conversations
Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children
Circles of Safety Recovery Framework
TPP 506: A Deep Dive into Autistic Burnout in Children with Jodie Clarke
Jun 2, 2026 · 50m · 3quotes pulled
“what we're essentially doing is calming that nervous system and developing circles of safety. So the circles of safety will start really slow, where whatever feels safe to that child at that moment is what we're going to stick with.”
Raising Boys & Girls
Visible Parental Boundaries
Episode 380: An Honest Conversation about Mothers and Daughters with Haven Weit and Lisa Whelchel
Jun 2, 2026 · 1h 8m · 3quotes pulled
“The moms would stay inside our kitchen table and they would lock the door and put us in the backyard and say, you're not allowed in unless someone's bleeding... it taught me of, I'm not the center of her universe.”
Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Raising Tweens & Teens
Nature Walks for Attention Restoration
274: ENCORE: S.U.N.: Lisa’s Three Keys to a Happy Summer
Jun 2, 2026 · 33m · 2quotes pulled
“The people who went through a walk in the woods do really well on digit backwards. Their ability to pay attention has been restored. The people who go through a walk in the city don't do very well on digit backward.”
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▶ ListenBratBusters Parenting Podcast
The Hidden Flaw in Parenting Boundaries#173 In this episode, Lisa discusses her thoughts on parenting boundaries. She covers how she would go about strengthening your calm leadership parenting skills and feeling too strict when creating parenting boundaries. Lastly, Lisa addresses seven listener questions, discussing how to handle siblings constantly fighting, what to do when children are not respecting their mom, ways to navigate toddler defiance during transitions, and whether parents should be doubling up on consequences...
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What’s Standing Between You and Your Teen?<p>Why do some parent-teen relationships slowly drift apart — even when both sides still care deeply? In this episode, Mark and Wayne unpack some of the biggest barriers that can damage connection with teens, including misunderstanding, overly strict rules, constant correction, unrealistic expectations and discipline without relationship. You’ll also hear Andrew’s story of anger, isolation, drug use and how finally understanding his father’s perspective began restoring their relationship. If you’ve felt stuck, frustrated or unsure how to reconnect, this conversation is for you.</p><p>Arguments with your teen are rarely as simple as they seem on the surface. Find five truths behind arguing with a teen and practical advice on how to successfully engage in conflict at bit.ly/five-truths-behind-arguing-with-a-teen</p>
Raising Good Humans
Why Are All the Young People So Insecure?
What if raising secure kids has less to do with what you do wrong as a parent — and more to do with teaching them to build the right relationships from the start? My guest this week is Dr. Amir Levine, molecular neuroscientist, child psychiatrist, and associate professor of clinical psychiatry at Columbia University. His new book, Secure: The Revolutionary Guide to Creating a Secure Life, offers a unified theory of relationships with surprisingly concrete tools for building security at any age. This episode shares specific, teachable tools for helping kids of all ages — including neurodivergent kids — move through the world with greater security. What you'll learn: Why less than 10% of adult attachment style can be explained by parenting and why that's good news if you've been worrying you've already "done something wrong" What CARP means (Consistent, Available, Responsive, Reliable, Predictable) and why teaching kids to look for CARP friends can shape their relationship patterns for life Why our brains chase drama and ignore the secure people already around us and how to redirect toward a "secure village" How small, everyday micro-interactions create structural changes in the brain and why each one is an opportunity This episode is brought to you buy: BetterHelp: You don’t have to say yes to everything this summer. Find support in therapy. Sign up and get 10% off at BetterHelp.com/humans. Uresta: Learn more about this amazing breakthrough, trusted by over 50 thousand women at Uresta.com Tumble: Machine Washable Rugs, Made Better. For a limited time only, our listeners get 10% off + free shipping at Tumbleliving.com/HUMANS Great Wolf Lodge: Bring your pack together at a Lodge near you. Learn more at GreatWolf.com
▶ ListenRespectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled
The Answer to HittingA parent writes that she's struggling with her nearly 2.5-year old's hitting. Her toddler also talks a lot about pushing and hitting her friends "almost as if it's a joke." The parent's various attempts to curb this behavior aren't working, and she's feeling defeated. Meanwhile, the toddler's language is sounding increasingly intense and violent. Janet advises a reframe that's simpler than most parents might expect and applies to many other concerning childhood behaviors as well. Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" is available at NoBadKidsCourse.com and JanetLansbury.com. Please support our sponsors! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Raising Boys & Girls
Episode 381: Where Commitment Meets Capability with Shawn Johnson and Andrew East
In this episode, Shawn Johnson East and Andrew East discuss the importance of commitment, resilience, and raising capable kids. Drawing from their experiences as elite athletes and parents, they share how supportive parents helped them build confidence through challenges rather than rescuing them from discomfort. The conversation highlights the value of letting children develop independence, discover their unique passions, learn from failure, and stick with things that matter, while emphasizing that growth and joy often come through perseverance rather than quick success. Resources mentioned: The Courage to Commit: Embrace the Radical Power of Sticking With Something by Shawn Johnson and Andrew East Couple Things with Shawn and Andrew Family Made . . . . . . Sign up to receive the bi-monthly newsletter to keep up to date with where David and Sissy are speaking, where they are taco'ing, PLUS conversation starters for you and your family to share! Pre-order our new book, Capable and grab tickets for Capable - The Book Tour here! See our speaking dates, purchase books and check out our courses here.. . . . . . If you would like to partner with Raising Boys and Girls as a podcast sponsor, fill out our Advertise With Us form. QUINCE: Go to Quince.com/rbg for free shipping on your order and three hundred and sixty-five -day returns. BOLL & BRANCH: Get 15% off plus free shipping on your first set of sheets at Bollandbranch.com/rbg. Exclusions apply. SHOPIFY: Go to https://tinyurl.com/RBGShopify to learn more about Shopify! THE WONDER PROJECT: Subscriber support makes more great content like I Gotta Ask with Annie F. Downs possible. The Wonder Project subscription on Prime Video is available in the U.S. for $8.99/month or $89.99/year after a 7-day free trial. Visit IGottaAsk.com to learn more! THE ABSORPTION COMPANY: Visit absorbmore.com and use code RBG for up to 35% off your first order Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
The PedsDocTalk Podcast: Child Health, Development & Parenting—From a Pediatrician Mom
The Follow-Up: Identifying and Treating Eczema
Eczema is common, frustrating, and often misunderstood. In this episode, we break down what eczema actually looks like at different ages, how specialists determine severity, and why treatment should always start with strengthening the skin barrier. We discuss: • How to recognize eczema, including how it differs in infants vs older children • How doctors determine mild, moderate, and severe eczema • When allergy testing is appropriate — and when it is not • Why blanket food panels can cause more harm than good • The risk of false positives and unnecessary elimination diets • How to build an eczema action plan • First-line skincare strategies that actually work • The role of moisturizers, emollients, and when prescription treatments are needed Want more? Listen to the full, original episode. Our podcasts are also now on YouTube. If you prefer a video podcast with closed captioning, check us out there and subscribe to PedsDocTalk. Get trusted pediatric advice, relatable parenting insights, and evidence-based tips delivered straight to your inbox—join thousands of parents who rely on the PDT newsletter to stay informed, supported, and confident. Join the newsletter! And don’t forget to follow @pedsdoctalkpodcast on Instagram—our new space just for parents looking for real talk and real support. We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on the PedsDocTalk Podcast Sponsorships page of the website. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Raising Boys & Girls
Episode 380: An Honest Conversation about Mothers and Daughters with Haven Weit and Lisa Whelchel
Lisa Whelchel and Haven Weit share a rich and honest conversation about raising capable kids, cultivating independence, and building a strong mother-daughter relationship that lasts into adulthood. Through stories of entrepreneurship, trust, conflict, and repair, they explore how secure boundaries, meaningful connection, and a willingness to keep showing up for one another can shape both families and future generations. Resources mentioned: Capable by David Thomas and Sissy Goff Substack — Lisa Whelchel’s newsletter Throw Out the Bathwater Haven! - Haven’s Podcast . . . . . . Sign up to receive the bi-monthly newsletter to keep up to date with where David and Sissy are speaking, where they are taco'ing, PLUS conversation starters for you and your family to share! Pre-order our new book, Capable and grab tickets for Capable - The Book Tour here! See our speaking dates, purchase books and check out our courses here.. . . . . . If you would like to partner with Raising Boys and Girls as a podcast sponsor, fill out our Advertise With Us form. QUINCE: Go to Quince.com/rbg for free shipping on your order and three hundred and sixty-five -day returns. BOLL & BRANCH: Get 15% off plus free shipping on your first set of sheets at Bollandbranch.com/rbg. Exclusions apply. SHOPIFY: Go to https://tinyurl.com/RBGShopify to learn more about Shopify! LIBERTY HEALTH SHARE: Visit LibertyHealthShare.org to learn more about healthcare sharing options for your family. THE WONDER PROJECT: Subscriber support makes more great content like I Gotta Ask with Annie F. Downs possible. The Wonder Project subscription on Prime Video is available in the U.S. for $8.99/month or $89.99/year after a 7-day free trial. Visit IGottaAsk.com to learn more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Parenting Today's Teens
Why Teens Need Someone Who Will Listen<p>Could one simple parenting skill completely change your relationship with your teen? In this episode, Mark shares why listening may be the most powerful way to connect with today’s adolescents. In a culture full of noise, opinions and constant reactions, many teens feel unheard — even in their own homes. Mark offers practical wisdom on how to listen without interrupting, correcting or rushing to fix everything. He also explains why understanding your teen’s heart matters more than winning an argument. Don’t miss this vital episode.</p><p>While listening to your teen is extremely important, what do you do when you don’t like what you hear? Find out here: bit.ly/when-you-hear-things-from-your-teen-that-shock-you</p>
Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children
TPP 307a: Eliza Fricker Talks Parenting a Child with PDA
Eliza Fricker joins me to talk about PDA or pathological demand avoidance – and in fact I know many people interpret PDA as persistent desire for autonomy. I’ve done a few episodes on PDA before but never from a parent’s perspective so after reading Eliza’s book, The Family Experience of PDA, I knew I wanted to share her perspective with the Tilt community. During this episode, we talked about how demand avoidance is more extreme in a child with a PDA profile vs. the inflexibility and rigidity we might see in other neurodivergent kids, what Eliza has learned about herself parenting a child with PDA, and what her resistance was to the changes needed to her parenting style. Eliza also gave out some great tips for teachers who have a PDA student in their classroom and for parents who are struggling with family, friends, or people close to them who aren’t willing to understand what PDA is and what that means for their family. Things you'll learn from this episode * What makes demand avoidance more extreme in children with PDA * Eliza’s experience in changing her parenting ways to become more flexible * Tweaks teachers can use to work with children who have PDA in a classroom setting * How PDA may look different than “typical demand avoidance” that we might see in some neurodivergent children * What Eliza has learned about herself from parenting a child with PDA * Advice for parents who are raising a child with PDA Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Raising Tweens & Teens
274: ENCORE: S.U.N.: Lisa’s Three Keys to a Happy Summer
Does your family hit September feeling more exhausted than when summer started? You're not alone — and it doesn't have to be that way. In this episode, Dr. Lisa Damour shares her research-backed S.U.N. framework — Sleep, Unplug, and Nature — a simple, three-part plan for making summer genuinely restorative for your tween or teen (and for you). Whether your family is drowning in screens, running on bad sleep, or spending zero time outdoors, this episode gives you a realistic, concrete roadmap you can actually put on the calendar. 💡 YOU'LL LEARN: - Why protecting sleep matters even when summer schedules get loose — and the specific habits that make the biggest difference - How to set tech boundaries that work as a family routine, not just a one-off rule - What the research actually says about nature and why even brief time outdoors reliably restores attention and lowers stress - Why a plan and a conversation are the two things standing between you and a genuinely restorative summer - How to implement S.U.N. in your family in a way that sticks into fall With summer just getting started, there's no better time to revisit this encore episode. ________________ GET DR. DAMOUR'S FREE WEEKLY NEWSLETTER Guidance, strategies, and tips delivered straight to your inbox → https://drlisadamour.com/sign-up-for-my-newsletter/ DR. DAMOUR'S BESTSELLING BOOKS - Untangled: Guiding Teenage Girls Through the Seven Transitions into Adulthood – https://bit.ly/UntangledBook - Under Pressure: Confronting the Epidemic of Stress and Anxiety in Girls – https://bit.ly/UnderPressuretheBook - The Emotional Lives of Teenagers: Raising Connected, Capable, and Compassionate Adolescents – https://a.co/d/cbOmTKp UNTANGLING 10TO20 MEMBERSHIP Premium courses & resources for teens and the adults who care for them → https://lnkd.in/gr52MB-F VISIT DR. LISA'S WEBSITE → https://drlisadamour.com/ ________________ Today's sponsors: LMNT: Receive a free 8-count Sample Pack of LMNT's most popular drink mix flavors with any purchase at https://drinklmnt.com/asklisa Children&Screens: Check out Screen Deep wherever you listen to podcasts Pestie: Get 10% off your order at https://wwwpestie.com/ASKLISA Tumble: Get 10% off your order plus free shipping at https://www.Tumbleliving.com/ASKLISA ________________ Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Raising Tweens & Teens is the essential podcast for parents seeking expert guidance, tested strategies, and psychological insights on raising kids, especially tweens and teens. Join renowned clinical psychologist Dr. Lisa Damour and former journalist and mom of two Reena Ninan as they explore real-life parenting challenges. Looking to learn more about how to boost kids’ resilience, build their confidence, or support their emotional well-being? Dr. Lisa and Reena have got you covered! Together they address listener questions about stress, anxiety, social media concerns, school pressures, and challenges in peer relationships. Each episode provides practical advice and science-backed solutions to help parents raise resilient, confident, and emotionally healthy kids. Tune in every week for the latest topics in parenting, child psychology, and family wellness. Get answers to your most pressing parenting questions. New episodes drop every Tuesday. ________________ Episode keywords: ummer with tweens, summer with teens, summer screen time rules, tween phone rules summer, teen phone rules summer, how to limit screen time in summer, kids addicted to phones summer, summer sleep schedule for teens, fix teen sleep schedule summer, how much sleep do teens need in summer, family tech boundaries, digital detox for teens, unplugging from technology as a family, getting kids outside in summer, nature activities for tweens, nature activities for teens Podcast keywords: ask lisa podcast, dr lisa damour, reena ninan, psychology, parenting, podcast, teens, tweens, parenting teens, parenting tweens, teen parenting, tween parenting, parenting tips, parenting advice, positive parenting, parenting podcast, teen behavior, tween challenges, raising tweens, raising teens, parenting hacks, parenting help, family dynamics, kids podcast, mental health, teen mental health, attachment styles, emotional intelligence
Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children
TPP 506: A Deep Dive into Autistic Burnout in Children with Jodie Clarke
Today we’re talking about autistic burnout—what it is, how it shows up in children and young people, and what it actually takes to support recovery. My guest is Jodie Clarke, an autistic and ADHD professional with more than 20 years of experience specializing in autistic experience and mental health, particularly in children and teens. In this episode, Jodie talks about the signs and causes of autistic burnout, how it’s often misunderstood or missed altogether, and what meaningful support really looks like. This is an essential conversation for anyone supporting autistic kids—grounded, validating, and full of important shifts in how we understand and respond to burnout. About Jodie Clarke Jodie Clarke is an autistic and ADHD professional with over 20 years’ experience, specialising in autistic experience and mental health with a focus on children and young people . She is currently completing a PhD exploring autistic burnout in children and young people. Jodie is also a parent to 3 neurodivergent children of her own. Things you'll learn from this episode How Jodie Clarke’s personal journey into neurodivergence shapes her advocacy around autism and burnout Why masking plays such a significant role in autistic burnout for children and teens How autistic burnout shows up in young people and the signs parents can learn to recognize Why lowering demands and creating safe, low-pressure environments is essential for recovery How societal and family expectations can contribute to burnout and delay healing Why supporting recovery involves trusting parental intuition, unlearning conditioning, and helping kids reconnect with their authentic selves Resources mentioned Jodie Clarke’s website Stop the World I Want to Get Off: A Guide to Understanding and Supporting the Recovery of Autistic Burnout in Children and Young People by Jodie Clarke Young, Autistic, and Burned Out by Jodie Clarke Luke Beardon at Sheffield Hallam University Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
▶ ListenPlay Therapy Parenting Podcast
S4E1 - Can Children Develop Internal Motivation Without Rewards?<p>In the first Q&A episode of Season 4, I answer a thoughtful question from a mom who is trying to help her eight-year-old daughter develop internal motivation for everyday responsibilities. We explore the difference between external rewards and the child-centered concept of choice giving, and why many parents misunderstand what choices are actually designed to accomplish. I explain how choices return responsibility to children, help them experience appropriate power and control, and allow them to learn from the outcomes of their decisions.</p> <p>I also discuss an important developmental reality: young children are not making decisions through logic and abstract reasoning the way adults do. Instead, they are driven primarily by emotions and experiences. Understanding this difference can transform the way we approach expectations, consequences, and motivation. This episode will help you better understand why choice giving remains one of the most effective tools for building responsibility, confidence, and an internal locus of control over time.</p> <p><strong>Ask Me Questions:</strong> Call <a href= "tel:18138125525">(813) 812-5525</a>, or email: <a href= "mailto:brenna@thekidcounselor.com">brenna@thekidcounselor.com</a></p> <p><strong>My New Book! Parent Companion for Play Therapy:</strong> Want to go deeper into the concepts discussed in this series? Check out Parent Companion for Play Therapy, created to help parents better understand their child, the play therapy process, and how lasting emotional growth takes place.<br /> <a href= "https://www.amazon.com/Parent-Companion-Play-Therapy-Understanding/dp/B0H2D98F18/" target="_blank" rel= "noopener">https://www.amazon.com/Parent-Companion-Play-Therapy-Understanding/dp/B0H2D98F18/</a></p> <p><strong>My First Book:</strong> Device Detox: A Parent's Guide To Reducing Usage, Preventing Tantrums, And Raising Happier Kids<br /> <a href="https://a.co/d/bThnKH9" target="_blank" rel= "noopener">https://a.co/d/bThnKH9</a></p> <p><strong>Podcast HQ:</strong><br /> <a href="https://www.playtherapyparenting.com/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">https://www.playtherapyparenting.com/</a></p> <p><strong>My Newsletter Signup:</strong><br /> <a href="https://www.playtherapyparenting.com/newsletter/" target= "_blank" rel= "noopener">https://www.playtherapyparenting.com/newsletter/</a></p> <p><strong>My Podcast Partner, Gabb Wireless:</strong><br /> <a href="https://www.playtherapyparenting.com/gabb/" target= "_blank" rel= "noopener">https://www.playtherapyparenting.com/gabb/</a></p> <p><strong>Common References:</strong><br /> Landreth, G.L. (2023). Play Therapy: The Art of the Relationship (4th ed.). Routledge.<br /> Landreth, G.L., & Bratton, S.C. (2019). Child-Parent Relationship Therapy (CPRT): An Evidence-Based 10-Session Filial Therapy Model (2nd ed.). Routledge.</p>
AT Parenting Survival | Raising Kids with OCD & Anxiety
Is Your Child’s “Defiance” Actually Caused by OCD?
<p>Defiance can be one of the most misunderstood signs of OCD in children and teens.</p><p>When kids refuse to touch certain things, avoid everyday tasks, struggle with homework, take excessive time completing routines, or seem resistant to basic expectations, it can easily look like oppositional behavior. But underneath that behavior may be intrusive fears, avoidance compulsions, contamination concerns, or “just right” OCD driving their actions.</p><p>In this episode, I explore how hidden OCD symptoms are often mistaken for defiance, difficult behavior, or laziness, leading parents, teachers, and even therapists to respond in ways that may unintentionally worsen the cycle. I break down common household, school, and daily life behaviors that may actually be rooted in OCD, and explain how parents can better identify the true source of the struggle.</p><p>You’ll learn how to dig deeper beneath the behavior, ask more effective questions, and determine whether your child needs discipline, boundaries, or therapeutic support through exposure and response prevention (ERP).</p><p>If you are a parent who has ever wondered whether your child’s “bad behavior” may actually be part of their OCD, this episode will help you better understand what may really be happening beneath the surface.</p><p>To get this episode’s PDF handout go to <a href="http://www.natashadaniels.com/handouts" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">www.natashadaniels.com/handouts</a></p><p>Get the course: <a href="https://www.atparentingsurvivalseries.com/difficult-behavior/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">How to Handle Difficult Behavior Caused by Anxiety or OCD</a></p><br><p><br></p><p>***</p><p>This podcast episode is sponsored by NOCD. NOCD provides online OCD therapy in the US, UK, Australia and Canada. To schedule your free 15 minute consultation to see if NOCD is a right fit for you and your child, go to</p><p><a href="https://go.treatmyocd.com/at_parenting" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://go.treatmyocd.com/at_parenting</a></p><br><p>This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be used to replace the guidance of a qualified professional.</p><br><p>Parents, do you need more support? </p><br><p>🌸 Here’s are resources I offer parents 👇🏻❤️</p><br><p>Online classes for parents raising kids with anxiety and OCD:</p><p><a href="https://atparentingsurvivalschool.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://atparentingsurvivalschool.com</a></p><br><p>Join the AT Parenting Community (A membership designed to support parents raising kids with anxiety or OCD):</p><p><a href="https://atparentingcommunity.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://atparentingcommunity.com</a></p><br><p>Take one of my FREE webinars:</p><p><a href="https://www.natashadaniels.com/webinars" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">www.Natashadaniels.com/webinars</a></p><br><p>Check out my books: </p><p><a href="https://www.natashadaniels.com/books" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">www.Natashadaniels.com/books</a></p><br><p><strong>🌸 Other social places I hang out:</strong></p><br><p><a href="http://www.facebook.com/ATparentingSurvival" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">http://www.facebook.com/ATparentingSurvival </a></p><p><a href="http://www.pinterest.com/ATparentingSurvival" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">http://www.pinterest.com/ATparentingSurvival</a></p><p><a href="http://www.instagram.com/ATparentingSurvival" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">http://www.instagram.com/ATparentingSurvival</a></p><p><a href="http://www.twitter.com/Parentingsurvival" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">http://www.twitter.com/Parentingsurvival</a></p><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p>